Would you rather be hated for something you are, or would you rather be loved for something you are not?


5 thoughts on “Query

  1. I would not like to be hated, but would not change who I am to avoid it.
    OTOH, we psychologists are used to being “loved” (in quotes because its not truly love, although they often think it is) for being whom our patients perceive us to be, which may or may not be radically different from who we really are. That’s called transference 🙂

  2. Tough question! Instinct tells me I’d rather be hated as that seems the most honest choice, but technically it depends on what it is you’re being loved for not being (did that make sense?). For example, if you were loving me for NOT being something negative (greedy, vain, self absored, etc.) then I’ll take that one. In either case I would accept whatever one’s reaction to my core values are. Love me or hate me, I am what I am.

  3. wow, that’s a big question
    if someone either hated me for what i was, or loved me for something i was not really, but was pretending to be for them,

    i would wonder, if i have to be someone i am not for them to love me, why is that person in my life?

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